Chapter Seven - How You Look To Others in a SNAP
See What Others See in You and Get a First-Impression Makeover

In this chapter, you will learn the importance of knowing how you appear from other people’s perspective. You will:

•    Examine how you think you look — your self-perception.
•    Understand what your viewable first-impression behaviors are.
•    Uncover the true first impression that you make.
•    Practice making your best first impression on others.

ALSO:
·     Changing your first impression.
·     Making your positive invisible behaviors visible to others to improve your first impression.
·     How you look to others in a SNAP exercise.
·     Why you should toot your own horn to improve your first impression.
·     Modeling others to change your first impression.
·     How the lack of face time is affecting your first impression and why we need more face time.
·     How to increase your face-to-face time to improve your first impression.
·     What makes someone appear selfish or narcissistic in a first impression?
·     The table test - How the family dinner table affects your communication and the way you interact with others.
·     High Anxiety - reducing your social anxiety and improving your confidence by reading body language.
·     Second Stage Impressions - How are values form our stereotypes.
·     The Yuck Mirror- When you don’t like someone it may be because you don’t like a behavior of theirs that reminds us of ourselves.
·     Six questions to use for good conversation starters.

What First Impression Do You Give?

from page 186 in book...

Here's a  First Impression Worksheet, to help you discover what your first impression is.
 
The SNAP ME exercise changed my life. Workshop participants and my corporate and coaching clients have told me over the years that it has changed their lives, too, by helping them see their blind spots and learn how others view them.

More information here

The Top three tips for putting snap know-how to work for yourself immediately. 

The Check-In Method to change or improve your first impression. 

Three simple things you can do to improve the next first impression you make?  

How to improve your first impression on the four first impression factors of credibility likeability attractiveness and power.

Analyzing Your Communication at the Table, Past and Present Exercise

What you will get –

This exercise will help you uncover how your family dinner time
seating and communication may be affecting your current communication habits good and bad at work and in your personal life. The insights that you gain can help you make different choices about
where you sit at meetings and how you communicate each and every day.
View the Exercise

 

Are You Like Me? – A powerful tool to analyze your ability to read first impressions accurately.

from page 204 in book...

What do you look for when you first meet someone? Do you value honesty, a sense of humor, a certain political viewpoint or maybe charm? Whatever you value in others, whatever you hold to be good attributes in a human being effect your viewpoint. If you value a sense of humor and you meet someone who is serious and doesn’t make you laugh you can have a poor impression of that person.  Good or bad with or without prejudice or stereotypes, your values influence you. This book will help you assess how your values affect the way you form first impressions of strangers.
 
Exercise – Are You Like Me?
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