Snap: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma.
Cues of dislike:
- No mirroring of voice and body language. “When we like someone, we match and
mirror there voice, tone, tempo and speaking rate…” and body movements too,
says Wood, of snapfirstimpressions.com.
- Neutral facial expression:
No empathy or interest expressed in what you’re saying, “We often express
interest through raised eye brows and smiles. Or facial expressions that appear
to show the opposite emotional reaction to what you are saying.”
- Eye rolling: A sign of contempt and disrespect for others.
- Wrinkling of the nose:
Indicates that something doesn’t smell right and can be an indication of disrespect.
- Puts up barriers, for example, touches cell phone or sips out of coffee cup. “It
says symbolically this object is more important than you are, it is what I want
to touch and interact with,” says Wood.
There are also gender specific cues
- For a male boss. He stands facing you when giving you directions and sharing
information: Standing side to side rather than face to face signifies that a
man trusts you and is comfortable with you.
- For a female boss. She doesn’t face towards you when you are speaking. Women face
you to show they respect you and want to hear you. If she doesn’t like you, she
may aim her body away from you, closes her hands and arms over her
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.